Capitalism is draining, exhausting, and depressing. Make sure when identifying & changing out “old beliefs” with your therapist you’re talking about all the forms of internalized oppressive systems that are also f*ck*ng with your mental health.
A letter to marginalized people: your healing is a revolution. Your rest is resistance. Your love is liberating. Your gifts are medicine. Your purpose will save us. Your existence is sacred. When you heal, lead, love & are seen transformation happens in your life & the world.
When we’ve had our trust broken by people who were supposed to be safe, or experienced childhood emotional neglect, we may have become parentified, hyper independent, & disconnected from our own needs as a result. This makes getting support difficult 4 those who may need it most
There is a subtle but profound shift that happens in the space between consuming self help content and actually getting into relationship with a healing practitioner or community. This decision to try to trust again does not come easily if ever to ppl who have been harmed.
Our vagal brake can be strengthened when we’re easily or quickly triggered into our trauma responses or have difficulty returning to our ventral/more regulated state after a trigger. (2/3)
The vagal brake is our own internal regulatory process that helps us be triggered less often/not as strongly & also helps us calm down faster when triggered. (1/3)
If you’re not sure what qualities to look for in a potential mate: Salt n Peppa’s 1993 hit “Whatta Man” is still a relevant & thorough list
Absolutely nothing against you as a client or practitioner if you look like this. Whats problematic is the industry as a whole and industry leaders like Somatic Healing institute are, like the wellness & yoga industries, prompting a very specific image of qualified practitioners
Somatic healing, embodiment, sensuality, and trauma healing are for ALL bodies, not just yt femme cis thin hetero pretty young ones. There needs to be more representation in these spaces and we need to question any underlying biases bodies that look differently aren’t well.
Notice how your body responds to this prompt: What would happen in your life if you put your relationship with yourself first? If you put your needs at the top of your priority list? If you honored your desires, energy, and needs? If you loved yourself first and best?
To our autonomic nervous system SAME=safe & Different=dangerous Even when same sucks. Even when different could be really amazing. Our ANS doesn’t care about us “living our best lives” it’s only concern is “but did you die?” Honor this part of ourselves without giving it power.
There’s a difference between getting something and being able to keep it. Between doing something and being able to maintain it. Love, money, boundaries, visibility in our lives all tie back to the energy of receiving, our capacity to receive, and having the support to keep it.
Astrology is great because. .
My partner and I got into a heated discussion tonight.
Me: Astrology said this would happen this week.
Him: (starts laughing)
We were able to problem solve from a more regulated space.
Adult victims of gaslighting were child victims of gaslighting. Our caregivers denial of our direct felt experience lays a deep foundation of mistrust in ourselves which we carry into making adult decisions about relationships, work, and parenting ourselves.
It makes sense that if it wasn’t safe to be alone because you were neglected, that now your protector parts will do anything to help your inner child avoid that painful loneliness again. Even staying in relationships, jobs, etc that are unhealthy or you’re settling.
When people are there for you at your worst but distance themselves from you when you’re at your best you need to find new people.
The scary thing about slowing down long enough and creating space in your life to do healing work is what you have been avoiding, what you may have to face, and ultimately what may need to change, release, or bring into your life.
Are you dating without clarity in what you want in a partner? Are you in a relationship, but not with yourself? Wanting a relationship & being ready to have a healthy relationship are 2 different things. Conscious dating & relationships is a SKILL & can B learned!
Relationships are a dance of getting our wants and needs met AND meeting our own needs, of compromise AND boundaries, of becoming more yourself AND interdependence. Dancing masterfully takes knowledge, practice, and skill.